Big 21!
On the 4th of April 2013, I turned BIG 21.
My peers are on their 2nd children and more,
however, I remember Gayton McKenzie saying “wouldn’t it be nice if Black girls
broke the curse of “an apple doesn’t fall far from a tree”” by that he meant
that if your grandmother had her first child at 18 and your mother fell in the
same footsteps, why can’t you be different?? Those words gave me enough reason
to stay a virgin and work on empowering myself. And I’m sure we all know Dj
Sbu’s 7B’s “Books Before Boys, Because Boys Bring Babies”, I’d like to think
that that’s self-explanatory.
Turning 21, for me was not only about not having a baby, 21
for me means celebrating my growth as a young woman celebrating my life’s
challenges well or bad. I believe I’ve been through a lot, but most importantly
I didn’t break. I’m grateful to all the relationships I built with my family,
relatives and friends, it’s the bonds that I’ve built with these special people
that kept me sane. To God, my source of refugee, my Big Daddy, thank you for
everything, it’s only now that I understand and have made sense why I had to go
through everything I’ve been through.
For my 21st my mother said the most important
words to me, “my child you are now in your second gear of life, your first was
passing your matric, your second is turning 21 and being celebrated as a
beautiful young lady, your third gear should be graduating and fourth getting job
and lastly your fifth gear should be doing whatever your heart desires “that
for me is just enough to empower myself and be the best that I can be. My 21st
key is a watch and a bracelet and my mom asked me to define the gift myself and
I said to her “time waits for no man; I have to work hard in order for me to
reach my fifth gear in the next years”. I put myself under pressure there
however, it has to be done after all a goal or decision without a deadline is
merely a discussion with no energy behind it. Thank you Mommy, I love you.
Andiswa Madikane my Big sister, friend and mentor, also got
me the best and meaningful 21st gift, a twin dairy. This is no
grudge book keeper but a journal to write my goals and dreams my very own eye
bags and dimples. Just because I don’t have Bonnie Henna’s book it doesn’t mean
I cannot write my own “fake it, till you make it” but I’m not faking anything
I’m just giving myself the same dose of inspiration as reading eye bags
would’ve given me. Thanks Andiswa, Minnie you is making it step by step, I love
you is that okay?
To everyone else who made my 21st birthday the
best, thanks a million, I really am a special loved Khensi. How did I do it? Self-love,
wisdom and God’s word is my GPS, value my worth as a young woman, ask questions
and its okay to have your dreams critised constructively in order for you to
grow.
Thanks for reading my serving, go out there and shine like
the diamond that you are and God bless my Desire family abundantly xoxo!
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